One of the things that remains in menu in terms of dating is watching movies in a theater. In the tradition of establishing strong bond with your partner, this, from the early 60’s, or maybe from 70’s to present, is something that always find it’s way into lovers’ “to do list” during weekends or holidays. Aside from the movie itself, lovers on each others’ arms in a movie theater is another thing to watch for.
Well, that’s not a problem for legitimate lovers. But what if you’re just starting to court someone. Of course, flicks will always be an option. And since you’re still on the stage of “getting to now each other”, having her pretty tied up with arms is a mortal sin to commit. Expect her hand to land on your face instead. Have that idea to wait until scrapped out of your head and let it hang on the bay until the right time comes. For the meantime, let’s start with the hand. How are you going to do that?
Here’s the game plan.
1. Secure a date. First and foremost, secure a date. A lunch date will be fine. But don’t blow up your cover that you really intend to take her for a movie, okay? For convenience purposes, go to a mall with a movie theater. On your way to the restaurant, lead her on hall ways where both of you can see the movies’ posters being featured on the mall’s theater. Take a glace of those posters and she’ll be enticed to do same. Allow her enough time browsing them. But watch her eyes and lips. If she smiles on one movie poster, that means she likes the movie.
One more thing. When you invite her for a date, make sure it’s going to be between you and her only. More often, girls tend to bring them a friend or two the first time they’re going on a date with someone new. If you can ask her not to bring her gang, and assuming she agrees with it, you got yourself already some sight of light. You know how hard it is to be at ease with lots of bees buzzing around. You may or may not drop the plan.
A table for two has been prepared and you’re both having your lunch now. Little by little, start putting the movie posters you’ve seen along the way in the middle. You may ask her what she thinks of the movie. If she gets into the conversation about it, it’s a good sign already. And bang! That’s when you drop the bomb of inviting her to watch movie. But you have to be steady in assuring her that you’re harmless.
2. Select a movie. On your first movie date, the rule is, “ALWAYS CHOOSE A MOVIE THAT SHE LIKES THE MOST”. Period. Nothing more. Nothing less. And never ever argue about the movie that wants to see. On the other hand, for Filipino women, most of the time, when you ask them what they movie they prefer, they’ll return the question to you. It’s nothing much different when ordering food on your first date. And if she do that, you’re in trouble now.
Tip. Choose a romantic movie. Or maybe a romantic comedy movie. For this, you should have prepared yourself a long list of movies of this genre before meeting her at the mall. Correct me if I am wrong, but women are into these kind of movies. Movies like “50 First Dates”, “Serendipity”, “Titanic”, “Music And Lyrics”, “A Walk To Remember”, “10 Things I Hate About You” and others should do the trick for you. Of course, the “Twilight Saga”. They’ll ring a bell among women.
As much as possible, avoid watching horror flicks! If you don’t want to end up becoming her punching bag or her screaming wall. I remember back in high school days. We went on a field trip and we had this “horror tunnel ride”. I was with my ultimate crush and love interest. Reaching the end of the tunnel, I have my arms bruised and red with her finger nails clamped on me all the way. I also lost the buttons of my school uniform. Oh yes dear, she screamed so hard I almost lost my ear drums. I’m sure she still remember this. And I’m sure you don’t want this to happen to you. But if she prefers a horror movie, then prepare yourself for the beating. It doesn’t matter anyway. Again, go for something that she likes the most.
Consider also the day or schedule as to when a romantic movie will be shown. For a week, scout the malls as snoop around as to what movies are to be shown in days to come. Timing here is essential.
3. Go to the movie theater minutes before the show. Why is that? If you get inside in the middle of the movie, for sure she’ll be immediately focused on the movie itself. And you’ll be left by yourself even if you’re sitting beside her.
Make a good calculation of time. You’ll find the schedule at the ticket booth. Get in there at least 10 minutes before the film is being shown. This will allow you to set the mood. You can still engage her into a little conversation at make her feel comfortable being with you. And when the lights go down, it’s time to execute the game plan. That is, holding her hand.
4. Buy some drinks. Drinks. Choose the sweating cold one. They are part of the plan. What part? Again, our primary objective is just to hold her hand. And here’s how it should go with the sweating cold drinks.
Move a little closer to her. Just a little one. Hold the drinks with your hand next to hers. Wait until she starts giggling over a scene. In the process, her giggling might cause her to reach your hand holding the sweating drinks. Now, make sure the bottle’s sweat will spill into her hand. But don’t empty the drinks on her! Just a sweat of it. If it goes well as planned, as a gentleman, you have to immediately apologize. Be fast in reaching for your hanky. And hold her hand as you wipe off the bottles’ sweat the “accidentally” spilled on her hand.
Ola! One point!
4. The nibbling baby. When watching a romantic movie, women ca be easily attached with it. Aside from the “giggling” thing, there are some who would start nibbling their hands when they feel like they can relate to a movie’s particular scene or dialogues by the artists. And you to be patient waiting for her to do that. And when she does, you may “make a face of a concern and worried gentleman” as you look at her. Slowly, hold her hand. If you can, pull her hand away from her lips and say “Hey, please don’t do that. You might break your nails”.
Two points!
5. Wait for the emotion to break. A woman turning dead silent and biting her lips is a woman trying to hold back her tears and emotions. Admit it or not, even guys shed tears over a movie. Much more with the ladies. And this is another opportunity to hold her hand.
What are you going to do then? Simple. Again, grab your hanky and try inserting it on her clinched fist. Make sure you do it fast before she could open her purse to get her own hunky. Reminder. Make sure you bring with “clean” hanky. Bring two hankies to make sure.
Three points!
As much as possible, guys, avoid doing things the harsh way. There’s always a time for everything. And holding your date’s hand is not an exemption. If you want to make an impression, consider the conservative steps. (I’ll tell that myself as well, hehe.)